I’ve never done this, as I’m not one to draw too much attention to my blog or myself, but today sucks a lot. I’m not in my home for Christmas, which has sucked for 30 consecutive years and this year isn’t shaping up to be a whole lot better (to give you an idea of just how much negativity surrounds this holiday for me – I’ve been robbed, lost the only relative that ever looked out for me, caught ex’s cheating, been left out of the family get-together entirely, and been used as a pawn in arguments between relatives all in the days up to and on Christmas, so yeah, we don’t have a good relationship, that holiday and I).
I have, counting today, just 5 more days with Iris before he leaves for Korea. I have cried most of today. His mom doesn’t want my help preparing dinner or cleaning or with anything, and I feel useless and out of place. I have to put on my Happy Face tonight to meet his entire family, plus his brother’s girlfriend’s family, and try not to ruin Christmas for my daughter because I will not allow that.
So I’m going to do something I’ve never done and post some of the positive messages I’ve received in regards to my writings here and on Fetlife. I need some positivism and this is all that’s coming to mind.
Messages like these are what inspire me to continue blogging, to continue helping new people, to continue to maintain that people CAN have healthy D/s and kinky relationships. Blogging often feels like it exists in a vaccuum – I can look at my statistics all day, but that only tells me number of visitors, where they came from, and the search terms used to find me. I can’t express how nice it is for a “statistic” to become a person.
So, this is me asking you all to continue to write me. I always write back (unless you’re a complete jackass). It makes my day, and cheers me up during times like this.
Now, bring on the praise!
You Made A Difference
i’ve only been on FetLife for about 2 weeks or so, and came across you and your guide in the post about newbies cutting and pasting.
On the one hand, I’m proud to say that I’ve never cut and pasted an email on here or Match, and I follow most of the things you say.
On the other hand, crap! I absolutely saw a negative thing about my profile: I think I’ve completely pigeon-holed myself into a “boot guy.” Unfortunately, my first username was even worse than this one, and FL only lets one change the username once every 30 days.
I’m going to remove myself from one or two of the boot threads, and change my username when I’m able to. What you said makes total and complete sense, and I thought I’d let you know that you made a difference to a stranger. Who knows, maybe I’ll find the right person just because of you! />
– B, 43, male
I Wish To Thank You [please excuse his English, it is not his first language]
i just was just reading you tips and hints to meeting dominant females.
and i just wanted to thank you for taking the time to write that stuff down.
i believe it is a big help to people like me who are pretty new to all of this and are still looking around.
it seems making friends as a new person here is rather hard especially cause every woman gets spammed by needy males.
so, an other kind thank you.
-F, 23, male
sorry to bother you but i really wanted to say thanks for your input on [her post]…
i felt you understood where i was coming from.. what i was asking and your comments were very thoughtful and helpful… again thanks…
– b, 49, female
I know that we haven’t always seen eye to eye, but I want to thank you for writing your “guide to being a dominant woman”. I am in the process of developing a Mistress/slave relationship, and, in a small, but very significant way, your guide has helped me to progress in my journey, and grow stronger, and more confident.
Anyway, have a wonderful night!
– X, 32, female
Hi there Femi!
I just wanted to drop you a word to say that I abso-f***-lutely loved what you write on “being a dominant woman’ and on “meeting one”. Seriously, just perfect – about what you (don’t) have to do, about being just people (both the domme and the sub), about labels, you nailed it all. Very nice reading. Thanks for providing the pleasure.
(yeah, you probably get this a lot, but hey, it’s nice to give compliments when they’re deserved, right? And people who deserve them usually like it)
– V, 32, male
Thank you for existing. I love the blogs and the tumblr. Definitely going to refer my gf to your site. I would love to have friends like you, and would love your feedback about how my profile reads. Would you be interested in yet another part time follower?
– S, 34, male
Dear _Femi. Thank you for your guide in meeting a dominant Woman. I am going to try out your suggestions.
-r, 59, male
Hi, I just wanted to say that I saw your post about “Worshipping a Domme” in the submissive men group and I really appreciate what you had to say. I’ve noticed your comments in more than a few discussions around the site and I really admire your insight. Being completely new to the world of kink there are a lot of things I see on this site that I honestly find upsetting despite my best efforts to be open-minded, and it’s reassuring to see that there are still some really solid, grounded people involved here.
I probably don’t agree with everything you’ve ever posted, but even though your words are not gospel I still find them really helpful. So please accept a stranger’s word of thanks for helping a little bit to guide a poor lost soul through this strange new world 🙂 Hope you had a happy Thanksgiving!
– B, 29, CD/TV
Just wanted to say,
Been on your blog, loving it!
That is all, thank you!
– J, 23, M
Really nice Your blog and guide too 😉
Have fun dear Lady…
Bye from Florence
– L, 54, female
I just wanted to take a moment and let you know that I was just reading “Being a Dominant Woman” and found it very insightful.
I stumbled across your profile and have read some pretty interesting things which have given me even more to think about. I just wanted to say “Thank you.”
– A, 39, female