This post is inspired by whoever found my blog by searching for “things to do to male sub in public.”
I don’t think he (or she) found the answer they were looking for here. I don’t do public kink. I don’t require Iris be overtly submissive to me when not in private. He doesn’t have a collar he wears in public. I don’t make him go out to dinner wearing a butt plug or chastity device or a pair of women’s underwear. He isn’t required to call me by any special name or honorific in public, or well even in private, but he calls me Ma’am anyway cause we just both like it and it fits our dynamic. He isn’t required to wait for me to start eating before he can, or wait for me to tell him what he’s ordering, or do any other kind of protocol.
We really are only dominant and submissive in the privacy of our homes. There are times when I think it could be fun to take that outside, and we’ve talked about a few ways we could do that, but with our in-person time limited to a few days every couple of months, kink just doesn’t take priority. When we are together, there’s often my daughter or friends with us, so a lot of things just wouldn’t be practical, such as having him wear his corset under his shirt. That sounds like a really bad idea when a 9-year-old might suddenly decide she’s tired and needs to be carried.
I did make him the bracelet you see linked to at the end of this post, but it broke and I haven’t made a new one yet. Other than that, I… got nothing. I have always rejected protocols, as they feel stuffy and boring to me, like the anti-us, as we are mushy, cuddly, romantic, spontaneous, and goofy.